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Like, she was very aware of the situation, the impact that it had, and took the moment to do the right thing - or to do the empathetic and compassionate thing to apologize, to kind of own that mistake. And there is no amount of free face painting or temporary tattoos that could prevent the meltdowns that were occurring outside of this store.
And I don't deny that at a glance, I look like a man. Delaware Public Media. View the discussion thread. Do you want to get down, or are you going to stay on your dad's shoulders for the picture?
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Her speaking focuses on empathy, respect and the power of having real conversations. You finally get to the front, and then you're referred to as your niece's dad. You're next.
And in that moment, she kind of mouthed that I'm sorry. But my gender expression, the way that I dress, is androgynous. And I give her a, it's OK; it happens. You don't have to be the advocate or be the aunt - that I can exist in this - the vast majority of the world is gray, and we have to give ourselves room to operate in that space.
And then I think, you know, I would have missed the experience I was trying to have. To learn more about the people who were on it, go to ted. Would I brush off that comment to not be distracted for an instant from the pure joy of that moment and by doing that, walk out with the shame that comes up for not standing up for myself, especially in front of my niece? And we made the connection, and she realized she made the mistake. They say nothing.
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Our theme music was written by Ramtin Arablouei. When we can be the person that makes the first step, we know what that response is going to be - right?
But she knew that that was a mistake. But thanks. I think when people see you and take the time to do that, you reflexively do the same. And so, sure, if you're exhausted and you take a quick moment and do that, like, you make that mistake. Her eventual choice taught her a lesson about handling uncomfortable moments — and finding a middle ground. You know, it's that empathy that we have to - even in those tense situations, how do we take a moment to give somebody the benefit of the doubt, right That - you know, that this person wasn't homophobic or, you know, all of the, like, stereotypes that we would give somebody that would challenge that.
She knew she did it in front of my niece. And that's all we all want - right? She could care less that these two women were ing posters and coloring books as Snow Queen and Princess Ana with one N to avoid copyright lawsuits.
I'm accustomed to this familiar hurt, but I will do whatever I need to do to protect the people I love from it. And as we moved forward, her excitement only grew.
And to see hundreds more TED Talks, check out ted. You know, my professional and personal life is really intertwined, and so I see myself as an advocate. All that matters is the smile on her face. Would I take my niece off my shoulders and turn to the clerk and explain to her that I was, in fact, her aunt, not her father, and that she should be more careful and not jump to gender conclusions based on haircuts and shoulder rides And while doing that, miss out on what was, to this point, the greatest moment of my niece's life?
Since then, she has spoken at LGBTQ community centers, Fortune sales meetings, classrooms, ballrooms and boardrooms around the world. And now, I guess, you see that there always is a middle ground. And she runs to Elsa and Anna, the thing she's been waiting so long for, and all that stuff goes away. And I had developed some skills and some talking points and these ways to have conversations. And then it happened anyway. We've all been miscategorized in some way, especially when it's in a way that either feels accusatory or kind of contrary to how you see yourself and how you choose to be presented.
And so I think the impact of that is so ificant. And as we finally got to the front of the line and No. And let's be honest - at that point, I was pretty excited, too. And she was instantly riveted by the sight of the princesses. Like, she got it. Or would I be an aunt? And she gives me an apologetic smile.
So in an unexpected instant, we are faced with the question, who am I? Am I an aunt, or am I an advocate? And so you're just - you're, you know, simultaneously under a spotlight but also invisible. You know, you have these two sides of you - So, you know, professionally and then also personally. And when I was there, there was a meet and greet with Anna and Elsa from "Frozen. Copyright NPR. But in that context, I was wearing, you know, a tighter shirt than I would usually wear, kind of displaying my - as feminine as I get, you know From my body type.
And I love that she decided to mouth an apology to you to say sorry. And so part of Ash's job is teaching people how to talk about gender and sexual orientation, which brings us back to that hot summer day in Ohio By 11 o'clock, they had called s 21 through This was going to be a while.
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And even - so uncomfortable in that way but uncomfortable to make myself seen as a woman to have that not happen in front of my family. Like, you don't have to be on guard all the time. You know, the way I see myself, I've always identified as a woman. Like, she was just a tired woman that took a glance.
But I think a lot of times, we put ourselves under a tremendous amount of pressure that, you know, we can't let one moment pass us by without making these kind of moral stands that we identify ourselves with. And I hope with every ounce of my body that no one heard - not my sister, not my girlfriend and certainly not my niece.
When Ash Beckham was misgendered in front of her niece, she wasn't sure how to respond.
I think my gender identity is - has always been a woman. Like, they know they made a mistake.
They kind of pretend it didn't happen and just get through it. And so for me, it was really challenging because that is, like, my Achilles' heel, I think, is been - being mistaken for the wrong gender.